Hi, I was wondering if you could explain all the kintype, heart type, soul bond, head mate jazz. I don’t know anything about otherkin stuff and I would like to

ranthimi:

Hey! Yeah, you bet, thanks for coming in here and asking! The first thing that comes to mind, right off the bat, is that all of what you’ve listed is considered “alterhuman” but not necessarily “otherkin(d)”. You can also be any one of those things but not the others, but there can be overlap.

To start, otherkin(d) is what most people think of when they enter these communities, and it’s defined as identifying AS a nonhuman creature on a nonphysical level. Fictionkin(d) is the same thing, just replace “nonhuman creature” with “someone or something shown in pop culture or modern media.” For example, someone who is an elf is otherkin(d) but not fictionkin(d), but if you identify as an elf from LotR, for example, you would be otherkin(d) AND fictionkin(d). Otherkin and otherkind mean the same thing, but otherkind is an older variation people have started using in response to this website’s gross misuse of terminology.

If you are otherkin(d), you have kintypes, because otherkin(d) is something you are, not something you do. People who identify as earthly animals (deer, birds of prey, sharks, frogs, and also extinct animals like dinosaurs or something like a woolly mammoth, for example) are known as therianthropes, or therians for short, and “kintype” is replaced with “theriotype”. Some therians consider themselves otherkin(d), others don’t, and polykin (people with more than one kintype, often in more than one category, such as me being Just A Dragon as well as fictionkind) exist as well.

Essentially, if you’re otherkind/fictionkind/a therian, you ARE that thing on a nonphysical level. It takes a lot of time and effort to work out your kintypes, and you will make mistakes more than once. Don’t feel too bad if you run into this! Just avoid thinking that everything you feel a connection to is automatically a kintype.

This is where otherheartedness comes in. There’s a bit more debate as to what this means, especially since the term “synpath” is often used synonymously by some but not by others. Otherhearted folks, as well as synpaths, are people who connect very strongly to a thing, often beyond the sense of “this is my favorite animal” or “I relate very heavily to this character”. It’s been described as “I’m not this thing, but I should be this thing” or feeling like said thing is a relative of yours but not you. Some people do use it to refer to an animal they’ve had a lifelong fascination and connection with, but essentially if you identify very strongly WITH, but not AS, it’s otherhearted. You can, however, be ‘hearted and ‘kin in regards to the same thing, but that’s a tricky area that can get pretty confusing.

“Headmate” is often a catch-all term for people in a multiple system, and can refer to endogenic (traumagenic or non) systems or externally-based systems. Basically, if it’s an independent being sharing your body with you, it’s a headmate. I personally choose NOT to use this term since everyone who shares my body is externally-based or was created by me (I have a tulpa or two here, tulpas are often considered to be headmates but it depends on who you ask. Many tulpas are capable of fronting, as well, but the tulpamancy community is largely its own thing.)

Soulbonds are more or less a type of headmate in most scenarios. “Soulbond” is technically what refers to the specific type of link that connects you, otherwise it’d just be called spirit work. Soulbonds, as people, are external entities who are connected to you mentally and physically and can typically interact very clearly as a result, whether they’re living in their world and have a constant “open phone line”, living in this world (either in or out of headspace) temporarily, living here full-time, or some combination, depending. Soulbonds can be things other than fictional characters, but it’s often used to refer to beings who are considered to be such.

Basically:

  • Kintypes ARE you (or theriotypes)
  • Otherhearted/synpath is something you identify WITH
  • Headmates share a body and headspace with you
  • Soulbonds CAN be headmates, but they can also exist elsewhere.
  • All of these things are typically considered to be under the alterhuman umbrella.

If there’s anything else that needs to be cleared up or expanded on, feel free to leave another ask! Thanks for stopping my, I hope this helped!

So I think I may be a fictionkin, if that’s the word used to describe it (I hate the word a lot). A bit back, I watched the first episode of a show, and the day after I had started to use affectionate nicknames the main character had used, and started thinking of myself in terms of the main character; I also find it weird to say their name in 3rd person. I’ve also found my tastes aligning more with them, and fears aligning more too, over time. What does this mean?

seriousotherkin:

It can mean that you identify as this person which would make you fictionkin. 

It can also mean that this character is really well written and appeals to you in a way that makes you identify super strongly With the character. 

You’re the only one who can really dig down and work out which it is, but I have some suggestions as to how you can try and answer the question in a way that you can put some trust in. 
First, stop watching the show. 
Block the tags relevant to the show. 
Both of these are temporary steps. 

Then get a notebook and write down your current thoughts regarding the character and your relation thereto. 
This is important. 
Writing things down is Super important. 

Our minds and memories are malleable, but the words on paper won’t change.
This is your anchor. 

Then, using meditation, or music, or whatever helps you focus, try to work out what happens next. 
Without spoilers, without watching the show, you’re likely to work out some of the next steps in the character’s story correctly, because media is nothing if not full of foreshadowing. 
Do not speculate too much, try and write down what you “know” is coming, don’t worry about how you know it, just write it. 

Don’t settle for one thing. 
Write every little thing you can muster. 

If you are this character, you should already know a fair bit.
If you have no idea what comes next, odds are, you’re simply identifying with the character. 

When you’ve written down at least a half dozen things, preferably considerably more, and there’s literally nothing more left to write down, then you can unblock the tags and start re-watching the series. 

Then you can see how much you got right, and how obviously these things were coming. 
If all you got right was the obvious stuff, then you’re likely just identifying with the character. 
If you got most of it wrong, then you’re likely just identifying with the character. 

If you got most of the things right, even little things that you had no business knowing, things that you were sure were coming even if there was nothing in the series to this point to indicate it, and with an uncanny accuracy… well then… there can hardly be any question as to who you are can there?

This is only one method however, whatever you do, it’ll always take real work to really get an answer to that question “Who and what am I?”

ex-kin here to say – fuck kin culture, fuck being fictionkin, fuck being factkin, fuck being otherkin and fuck being a therian. i hate this fucking community. it tore my mental state to shreds. i have no issue with you guys, but portraying it as “harmless” is some awful shit. it’s a deeply harmful community. i’d suggest putting all of your efforts towards FIXING IT instead of mocking the ex-kin and people affected by kin. thanks. (also don’t use autism as an insult, please.)

anti-kin-cringe:

What exactly do you mean “ex-kin”? Did you once have a kintype that then faded? Or were you one of those poor misinformed souls who thought being kin was choosing a character you liked and hardcore-roleplaying it?
Or maybe you were a copinglinker, and it just didn’t work out for you. Any way you slice it, this sort of anger at our community is kind of irrational.
Nobody ever twisted your arm and made you say you were kin.
Otherkinity is, by itself, not harmful. Please note the distinction between “not harmful” and “harmless”. One can experience troubles due to a kintype, yes, even that oh so controversial species dysphoria. But having a kintype isn’t inherently harmful.

Now I know I sound quite defensive, and maybe even aggressive, about all this, but I truly don’t mean it that way. I’m sorry for the struggles you went through. I hope you are in a better place now, and yes, I even encourage you to vent as much as you need. 

Anon, you tell us to let up on anti-kin, to “fix” our community. What do you think we are doing? Anti-kin, and the misinformation they perpetuate, are quite possibly the ones to blame for your struggles. Each and every one of the mods here seeks to help out our community, whether through correcting misinformation, or through being an advisor. How do you think we all met? It was us trying to fix our community, and growing continually frustrated with anti-kin, that led us to all join together on this blog. (It’s really quite cathartic to just laugh at their stupidity instead of being calm and reasonable with them)

And since when do we mock “people affected by kin”?
For that matter, who is affected by kin, except those who are kin, and maybe those closest to them?
And, anon, none of us mods has used autism as an insult on this blog, that much I can guarantee, though I can’t promise it has never happened, though I would wager that any such instances are far in the past. We all strive to be accepting, only insulting those who truly do deserve it. Like anti-kin.
-Lazy

hallowedbone:

absconders:

Being kin is honestly really fun cause you dont *have* to have a personality but you could add ur personality to ur kin or ur kin could just be ur personality

Bonus points if you and your friends can’t tell where you fall in those categories

Well, at least tumblrkin can admit they’re just stealing the word to make up for their lack of personalities now. Progress, I guess? I’m almost impressed.

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Two styles were delayed and are therefore not shown: Princess Sofia of Sweden’s wedding tiara and Queen Maud’s(?) pearl tiara. They will go live on a separate date upon arrival, to be announced.

In the meantime, please be ready at 8PM EST tomorrow – January 7th – if you are interested in snagging any of these pictured tiaras: George III Fringe, Oriental Circlet, Spencer, Queen Marie-Amélie. 

Don’t forget that the Anne Boleyne necklaces are available NOW!


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