It was actually through anti-kin-cringe that I heard Lucina pulled that (I think it was Hoot that told me?) and it was… Funny as hell, honestly.

I don’t have a credit card nor a paypal. I have never kept secrets about that – I’m under 18 and until a couple of months ago, was too ill to hold a job. (Haven’t gotten one yet, but I’m working on it.) So there’s literally no way I could pay for that commission, if I had actually bought one.

If I’d had ten bucks for a commission, it actually would have gone to @/zerolr – she does damn good work and I’ve known her since I was 10. That plus, I dunno, I don’t even like owls. One of my childhood friends just loves them, and since she became a bitch as she grew up, I actually kinda lowkey hate owls.

So yeah, wasn’t me. The ironic part, though, is that the only thing I share my url with to my knowledge, is the ShadowFae Chronicles, a series of urban fantasy erotica. In the three / four years I’ve had this url and blog, I have never had anyone approach me about it. I’m going to bet nobody who knows me associates me with the series, so it’s quite clear to me that Lucina tried to use my name as support, hoping I wouldn’t notice.

I wouldn’t have, since I have him blocked, if AKC hadn’t informed me within the hour of it being posted, so I could laugh at him.

So all in all, he didn’t screw me over. I got a good laugh out of it, and absolutely everyone involved knows full well that he’s full of shit. Drama is funny as hell to me, and this sure made the cut.

Thanks for your support, anon. :p

I didn’t.

I’ve literally never spoken to them before. I have them blocked.

I don’t have a bank account of my own. Any money I use is supervised by my parents. If I was buying a commission, let me tell you, I’d have better taste than that.

I don’t know any really good ones off the top of my head, no. I know of Kinmunity but that’s… a less than recommended place from what I hear.

The mods of @anti-kin-cringe have been around a lot longer, and should be able to help you more.

Do they know about otherkinity? No? You should probably tell them. Give them some sources, explain it as thoroughly as you can. 

Once you get that far, let them do their own research. Then you explain your exotrauma. You want to emphasize that you are aware it’s not trauma from the life and body you have right now.

For me, it manifests identically to people who had trauma thirty years ago. Symptoms all seem the same. Mine’s a little repressed, but their symptoms ring pretty true for me. Problem is, I’m seventeen, not over thirty.

My exotrauma is effectively trauma that happened somewhere else, when I had a different name and looked differently and is very much repressed and only shows up to punch me directly between the legs. 

You want to explain it pretty much like that – using terms they understand, and relating it to what they already know how to handle. It’s not likely that they’ll have seen this before – last time someone counted, those who ID as otherkin are about 5000 strong from what we’ve seen, though there could be more – so it’ll be new, and you want to put it into terms and boxes that they already know how to deal with, so they can modify the tactics they know so they work on you.

Assuming you’ve got a good therapist, they’ll do their best, and they’ll also do their own research, which can really only help you.

Good luck.

Been there done that personally, anon. Consider it possible.

I repress it and try not to think about it as best I can; because the one time some of it did come back when I didn’t expect it, I wasn’t right in the head again for a week and that was one panic attack.

If it is cropping up enough that it bothers me but not enough to a full blown panic attack, I try to distract myself as best I can. I have a terrible memory for things when they’re not phrased as though they’re in a story – I can regurgitate aggressive fact-giving tumblr posts (like the One Post about the ghost army in WWII and the Oatmeal comic about mantis shrimp) almost word for word, but ask me how my day went and I couldn’t tell you – and given a distraction, I’m just as likely to forget the trauma currently bothering me and why it cropped it as I am to forget what homework I have.

If I can’t get a distraction on my own, I go bother my brother, best friend, and soulmate rolled up in one person – @/leviantacatastrophe. And he generally makes me feel better. He’s also singlehandedly curing my seasonal affective disorder, but that’s another story. If you’ve got a person like him, smother them with affection and get them to reciprocate if they feel like it and it’ll generally help.

My best answer for you would be to research how ‘endotrauma’ (trauma from this life n stuff, opposite of exotrauma, don’t wanna say ‘actual trauma’ or smth) victims deal with it, and see if their methods don’t work for your case. Past that, distract yourself to the high heavens, remove everything that can trigger it from your life, and see if you can’t get over the trauma itself somehow.

Hopefully that helps.

Yes and yes. But this is my kin blog whose express purpose is to have a place to talk about myself, so I’ll give you an intro.

My fae hearttype is better explained in this post here. I’m not all that great at explaining it but there it is.

I have four kintypes. I am an Absol from Pokemon Ranger: Shadows of Almia, very much noncanon but rather memorable to those who might have known me. Big macs. Yum. Also that Luxray can get fucked.

I am also a noncanon devil from the works of Deep-Sea Prisoner (Mogeko Castle, The Gray Garden, Wadanohara and the Deep Blue Sea, etc). My canon is very canon divergent. We’re talking “Satanivlis was true and also a healthy relationship and there was no incest around to my knowledge” canon divergent. So when I’m talking about my DSP related stuff, I’m likely to make snide comments towards DSP’s artistic choices, and even worse comments towards the fandom, who recently drove off an artist I actually really liked because gods fucking forbid she not subscribe to Tumblr’s puritan holier-than-thou hivemind. Yeah, I’m still annoyed about that.

Thirdly, I am Pale Noël from the Evillious Chronicles: Original Sin Story. Yeah. The one time I’m not noncanon is when I’m a background villain with a translated name of ‘Daddy Christmas’ who only exists because his little sister exists to ruin everyone’s lives. This kintype also comes with a metric fuckton of exotrauma and repressed memories that I would like to not poke with a stick. You will hear me bitch about that a whole lot. If you stay following me, I’m sure you’ll get used to it.

And lastly, I am a noncanon character from AdventureQuest Worlds – this isn’t a past-life sort of thing like the other three, it’s more of she existed, then I existed as I am now, and magic happened and we kept swapping bodies up until summer of 2016. If you go far enough back in my blog, you’ll find Ranisson’s posts and her eternal confusion as to why I need more than one blog. However, we no longer have the connection and it doesn’t look like I’m getting back to Lore anytime soon. How rude.

If you’re faekin as you say, go say hello to @/glittered-goddess. That’s Dana, she’s your Elder Godshard Faerie Mom. She has a magical nuclear reactor of a rose quartz and she loves everyone, and she will be your mom. Trust in Dana. Dana will love you and accept you. 

I don’t much participate in the faekin side of things as much as I used to years ago; mainly because my fictotypes took precedence over my two hearttypes. Which is fine, I mean- we all tend to do it one way or the other. But just because I’m not a real Faerie doesn’t mean I won’t be your scaly-winged almost-fae dad. Because I will if you want me to be. That’s fine.

I haven’t seen anything like that in a pretty long time, so I’m going to have to ask for receipts. While I do acknowledge that there are some people like that, there’s a huge difference between “I’m atheist and otherkin, where the fuck is the rest of the community that isn’t spiritual” and “lmao spiritual otherkin are delusional it’s obviously a brain thing”. The former I see plenty of, because it happens a whole lot. The latter I just made up, and if you have seen the latter, I would love to see posts so I can set them straight.

Intercommunity hatred is not going to help anyone in the long run; but I haven’t seen very much at all from psychological ‘kin, if there is any that isn’t just badly phrased venting.

I do believe that it exists, but I haven’t seen it that widespread, and I’d be quite surprised if it was. There’s not enough info on psychological kin, let alone psychological kin; and least of all psychological kin who are misinformed enough to actually spew hate against the spiritual side of the community.

It would, however, not surprise me if it was the same group of five people trying to spread a mentality. That happens sometimes, and seems more likely.

I for one would personally love to see a post that actively puts spiritual kin down in favour of psychological kin that isn’t clearly saying “this is more geared towards psychological kin because that’s the focus of this post”. No, really. I want to see it.

Both of your examples are things I’ve personally said in the past 48 hours, and I was not bitching, I was explaining nuances and showing that being kin isn’t as concrete as tumblr might make you think.

Let me tell you, as someone who’s been here maybe 3-4 years now, and that’s not very long at all, psychological kin have barely anything to work with.

If you asked me for three credible posts about psychological kin by three different people, it would take me a while. Felix probably has one, House of Chimeras might, but past that I really have no effing idea where I’d find it. If you wanted spiritual kin instead, it’d take me ten minutes maximum, and I’d probably find a few more within an hour.

If sharing the spotlight for one in ten posts counts as hate to you, then uhhh, step outside the community and take a good look around you. They exist, too. And we the spiritual kin need to stop throwing them under the bus with all the misinformed spiritual kin saying otherkin is only past lives, or it’s all about souls, when that isn’t true, because while that can and does happen, it’s not the only way.

Saying that you can either take a train or a car to Boston isn’t hate towards trains or cars; but you’re pretty much saying that it is from what I can see. I think you should be a little more respectful towards them, and accept that their experiences are just as legitimate as yours, and deserve the same amount of attention. Because believe me, some new kid trying to figure out what’s what may only half identify with the spiritual side, but find the psychological side and burst into tears because there’s a word for it. An experience I’ve seen, more than once. Let them have their attention and posts and comments. They deserve it just as much as the rest of us.