Since pendulum/divination blogs are getting popular again in the tumblr otherkin community, I’d like to call folks attention to this portion of an old essay on otherkin by Tiernan, the owner of the Tir Nan Oc mailing list (one of the largest otherkin mailing lists back in the day):
A true mentor learns as much as sie teaches, and uses the tools appropriately. You cannot cannot cannot tell someone else what they are – if you do, you are lying to them. Oh, you may be correct – but you are still lying to them because your intent is false. If someone had told me I was Sidhe before I Understood it from the heart out, how much would it have meant? Would I have grown? Would I have learned? No, because I wouldn’t have done the footwork to try and understand why I felt/thought/experienced the way I did. I wouldn’t have come to Understand the culture that so impressed my soul that it continues to resonate thousands of years later, above and beyond any other I lived in. From the heart out.
Excerpt from the essay From the Heart Out by Tiernan. Key portions bolded for emphasis.